If you have Netflix you’ll be able to relate to this one! Sometimes you just find yourself consumed with a show. You watch one episode after another, until Netflix intervenes and asks you if you’re ok. Even Netflix is worried about you at this point, but you just keep going. Must. Catch. Up. Until finally you’ve watched all the episodes and you realize that you watched 3 seasons in 3 days. That just happened to me, and quite frankly I don’t regret it. The show that had this hold on me is The Mindy Project. If you haven’t seen it, get on it! Yes I’ve spent way more hours watching TV in a week than I should have all year, but I feel so good! I’m honestly not at all sorry that I spent countless hours watching a girl, who looks like the (fabulous) girl next door, and exudes confidence and quirky humour, motivate me for the last few days. Which brings me to the reason I wanted to write this post (Aside from the fact that this has been my life for the past week). Confidence is something many girls struggle with, and I want to give my take on it.
Confidence is the most important quality that we can possess internally which can truly translate to our external appearance and infinitely boost our outlook on life, and on ourselves. Body issues are a big reason for lack of confidence so let’s start there. If you think that once you lose weight you will feel confident, you’re wrong. I know plenty of skinny girls who struggle with self-esteem too. And it sucks. So it doesn’t really matter what you look like, but owning your look does, and feeling good in your own skin is key. It’s not easy if you’re surrounded by negative influences but that’s an easy fix – surround yourself with positive influences! This goes for the people you hang out with, the people you look up to, and the information you let enter your mind. The Mindy Project really hit this point for me, because Mindy is such a confident, attractive, funny girl, and with an incredible sense of style, that her weight really plays no part. Sure it’s the butt of many jokes, but as she puts it she’s “got an ass that won’t quit” and she’s not afraid to walk up to any attractive stranger and start a conversation. Mindy Kaling is definitely a positive influence to have in your life, and to look up to. She’s a writer, producer, and actress, and just a fabulous human!
Another celebrity I highly recommend getting to know better is Mayim Bialik. Even though she had an acting career early in life, she got an education, and not just any education. She has a Ph.D. in Neuroscience! And then, as if not a big deal at all, she returned to acting starring in, as we all know, The Big Bang Theory. Not only is it fascinating that she was able to make this transition, and she’s smart and beautiful, and a mom, and a writer, and doing a million other things, but she never sacrificed her beliefs. Mayim believes in dressing modestly, and I couldn’t agree more! I don’t understand why women should be bearing their bodies to be seen, or heard. If you have a great voice, cool, be a singer. Why do you need to be singing in your lingerie? Mayim Bialik wrote a poignant article about that actually! It’s a great read. Everyone has a skill, or a trait that makes them unique and unlike anyone else. We need to learn to embrace who we are, and striving to be skinny is not the only way to feel good about yourself. I think that when you are truly confident you feel that you are good enough, and you don’t feel the need to expose your body to appeal to others. Mayim is someone who embraces this. She is confident, and strong in her beliefs, and the kind of woman we should be looking up to.
Anything you see or hear or read has a greater influence on you than you might know. So surround yourself with positive role models, and influences. Confidence is a starting point to greatness. If you stand up straight and feel good about yourself and your skills, you will go far. You will not only look good, but exude your confidence far enough for people to take you seriously, to listen to your ideas, and to do business with you. I think there is no better time to start feeling good about yourself than now. With Emma Watson’s #HeForShe speech, and the attention it’s getting, I really feel that we are moving towards a world where women will feel less objectified, and we will be able to shift our focus from our bodies to our minds, and the world will be supportive.