posted a link to a page featuring Christine Teigen, and why she should be our new girl crush. To be honest, I had no idea who Christine Teigen is. I clicked on the link, saw some pictures of a girl with a gorgeous face, really cool style, and thin legs.
Personally I’ve always struggled with my weight; it’s a constant battle. I’m average but I really have to watch it, as gaining weight is way too easy. Being fat is quite possible, being skinny however, seems like this mythical land where girls with no problems go. I thought skinny girls were ‘lucky’. They didn’t have to worry about putting an outfit together – they could pick any jeans from their closet and a tight t-shirt, and not worry about their love handles. They could wear shorts! And short skirts! And they were always game for a pool party.
I Have gone through ups and downs as a teenager, having had a negative body image for a long time, and experiencing a close friend go through anorexia and bulimia, I never let myself want to emulate skinny girls. I didn’t want to idolize them and think of them as something to strive towards. I thought it would throw me down the path of anorexia and bulimia too. Skinny girls were ‘the other’. Yes of course now that I’m an adult I realize that you can be skinny and healthy. You can be naturally skinny, you can be skinny as a result of a lot of hard work, many hours at the gym etc. We should never judge people based on their appearance. You never know what battle someone else is fighting. I take that very seriously when it comes to other facets of life, but when it comes to weight I guess I still haven’t fully figured it out.
So back to Christine. After seeing her pictures, I went to twitter and commented that shes’ a classy girl but way too skinny. I could have written about how pretty she is, or her cool style but I didn’t filter and wrote that she’s too skinny. I had no malicious intent, and didn’t know that she herself would actually read the tweet (Christine is actually huge on twitter as it turns out). And quite frankly, and this is where I take full responsibility, I didn’t think “too skinny” would be hurtful. I have never experienced someone calling me ‘too skinny’. I have also never been in the public eye and been judged on my appearance. Christine took the high road and said that you should never negatively comment on anyone’s body type; and she’s right. I felt like an asshole all night.
I looked up Christine Teigen and realized she’s a swimsuit model. That’s when I realized that “too skinny” is not just an observation, and is definitely not a positive. She gets judged on her appearance on a daily basis – be it by fans, haters, magazines, or those responsible for her next job. There are agencies and brands out there deciding if she’s skinny enough, or fat enough to represent their products. You have to have some tough skin to handle that. I commend anyone in that industry. We shouldn’t judge anyone, ever. You don’t know how your words will impact somebody else. I didn’t mean to offend Christine with my words, and I would like to think that this experience has taught me a valuable lesson which I will carry forward. Christine, if you ever read this blog post, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings, and thank you for the life lesson.
You know what? The more I look up this girl, the more I have to agree with I now know why she’s my new girl crush!